To Sink or Swim....

In some recent circles I have come across those who feel guilty for not being there for their family members when they felt they were probably needed most. One such instance was a woman whose daughter was a drug addict and she had enabled her for a long time and then decided it was time to cut her loose. The daughter then floundered and committed suicide. The Mom was feeling a lot of guilt about it.

Another woman's son is still in the living but her deceased Father came through in circle to tell her that she was mamby pambying him....that he would not have put up with him using drugs and living under his roof. The Mom was torn with what to do.

Remember that Spirit comes through as their own personality. Just because someone is dead doesn't mean that they are suddenly enlightened and have all the answers. You must follow your heart but also look at things objectively and without emotion. I counseled the Mother whose daughter had committed suicide and let her know that I felt or sensed that the daughter would have gone down that road anyway. That it wasn't her fault and the daughter didn't seem to be holding any of that against her.

I turn now to Still Waters (my protector guide) to ask some questions:

We are sitting by the ocean as we most always are but this time the sun is going down and the sky is beautiful pinks and purples. We sit quietly for a moment just taking in the beauty of it all. I take a deep breath and Still Waters says:

"When you are born the gift of life is given and the breath of God fills your lungs...that first cry of a child is representative of the intake of God. When one takes their own life the heavens cry out. You are so lucky to have the experiences of life. So many others would love to be human...to have the human experience. The heavens cry out because of the pain associated with leaving this earth. The pain of loss, of disappointment, the pain of realizing that the person taking their life didn't know or understand the gift that was given to them."

I hear his words and slowly start to cry for all those that didn't understand.

"Your tears are representative of the millions of tears that Spirit sheds for them. But let me assure you...that their coming home is just as joyous as anyone else's. They are greeted with love and celebration. There is no judgement here on the Other Side....just complete understanding. We know that it's not easy being in the physical body. Some of us have chosen to never return to that experience. We honor those who choose it and comfort those who decide it's time to leave it"

"So there's no such thing as being damned for all eternity because you take your own life?" I ask

"No, never. Does it really make sense that the Universe would do that to one of it's own"?

"Yeah, I never believed that but I know many people who do" I answer

"The gift of life is precious. But if you don't want it no one faults you for returning it. Do you see? The Universe's feelings may be hurt...but there is no anger...no loss of love. Tell your people...they need to know".

"Thank you Still Waters...I will"