Negativity creates....

I have worked very hard over the years to remove negativity from my life.  Some days are more successful than others.  I was raised in a very negative family so it came easy for me.  Then as I matured and grew into adulthood I always wondered why others seemed to have it better than me.  Again a negative thought.  But the thought made me start to investigate all that maybe I was doing to create the life that I was experiencing.  I mean, the common denominator was always me.  So instead of listening to those who meant well (it's them...not you) I started to see how I was playing a part in what was being brought to me to experience.

My saving grace was and is the book "Excuse me your life is waiting" by Lynn Grabhorn.  I've probably written about this book before but I can't say enough about it really.  One of the stories in it has stuck with me.  It's the one about a woman and her husband who were traveling on a highway one day and all of a sudden this young kid throws a heavy rock down from an overpass and it shatters their windshield causing the woman to die.  How horrible!  To think that someone's thoughtless action could cause such misery.  But further into the story you hear that this woman was super negative.  That she thought the world was out to get her.  That she believed if something good happened to her she'd be sorry for it later.  You know, the next shoe dropping kind of person.  Lynn Grabhorn went on to describe that this woman and this young kid had had no connection in life except energetically.  He was an angry person wanting to take out his frustration on someone and she was a willing victim.  Not even knowing it...she had drawn this experience to her and voila!  Her life is over.

You've met these kind of people right?  The ones who look like everything is going well but when you talk to them their life is in shambles (to them it is anyway).  That nothing goes right.  That everyone is picking on them. They get angry at the slightest little thing.  They know for sure that that guy who cut them off today was out to get them.  You tell them they look great today and they say "oh...this old thing?"  Or you compliment them on how well they are doing and they say "well if you really want to know the truth..things aren't so great" and then they go on and on about how awful their life is?  Give them an "in" and they take it.  Over and over with the "bad stuff".

Steer clear of these people.  God bless them they're on their way to something "big".  Something that you want to be well away from.  I say this from experience.  I was one of these people for a very long time.  I work at it every single day.  It's not easy but necessary to get as far away from negativity and negative people as possible.  If you have someone in your life who is like this...sit them down.  Tell them the truth.  Let them know that their thoughts and their remarks are drawing difficulty to them.  Let them know that you love them enough to share this with them.  Give them Lynn's book.  Then walk away.  This was done to me...and I will always be grateful.  You may lose a friend....but one day..they just might thank you.

Thank you Brenda......T